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Breaking free of parental control.

He is a 20-year-old who has left the family.

Reason: to gain control of his life. He is now living on his own, renting out a room at $500/month.

While he serves in the military, his financial needs are curtailed. He has to look at other ways to finance his monthly needs. He did part-time jobs before his enlistment. Thereafter, he will be pursuing his tertiary study, on his own account, when he completed his military service.

Reason for leaving came after his parents gave him ultimatum - either he follows their decision, or he is out.

He feels he needs to take control of his life and decide what is good for him. He feels his parents have too much control. He is doing fine in school. He has an older sister who stays with her boyfriend. He thinks she is having that reason to stay away from home.

He wants out. One thing for sure - he would prefer to have his own life versus having to live in a home where everything is controlled. Even his choice of what to study and eventually his career choice is decided by his parents.

His gripes: his parents have been putting emphasis on performance, perfection and preference. All these are decided by his parents who are themselves professionals. They could expect nothing less of a perfect son.

Did he regret his choice? No. He is living his life the way he wants it. It was a decision that he did not take lightly. He wants to tell his parents that he too can succeed even without the credentials that his parents want.

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